8 Top Tips to Increase Positivity Right Now
It’s 6.23am. Light creeping through a gap in the bedroom curtains causes you to scrunch your eyes. You have hit the snooze button twice and you are slowly coming around. Work. What is my first meeting? What else is on my to do list today? Is it really time to get up?
You swing both legs out of bed and feel the warmth of the carpet on your feet.
More alert now you recognise a different feeling. Something you have not felt since you were a child.
You feel refreshed, positive and all your previous worries have gone. You have no emotional baggage or hang ups about your personality/appearance
How great would it feel to have this moment?
The reality is you can’t have a clean slate. The person you are is a result of your experiences and how you react to them. You can change the way you see the world, if you choose to. You can change the filter, the focus and you can increase positivity in your life and others.
You want to know a secret?
The brain can not tell the difference between something that is real and something imagined with real intensity.
How great is that?
Think about a time you have watched a scary film. Logic tells you that nothing is going to happen. It’s just a film, right? Try telling your brain this when you are laid in bed and a door creaks, or you hear an unusual noise outside. Best pull the duvet over the top of you and try not to breathe.
The benefits of thinking and acting positively include:
- A better psychology and wellbeing
- Improved health
- Enhanced coping skills during tough times.
In light of recent news it can be easy to see the whole world as a place of hate, anger and sadness.
This is far from the truth. There are examples of kindness and positivity happening everywhere. We just don’t get to see it on the news.
So, you want to increase positivity in your life, how can you do this?
Here is a little challenge for you. Smile at everyone you walk by today. I guarantee that almost everyone will smile back. Smiling is a great way of reducing stress for both you and the person returning the smile.
I have talked about meditation before and it can take the form of what ever you choose.
For me, I prefer to just concentrate on breathing. I do this for as long as I feel necessary, it might be a minute, sometimes five.
A great way to relax, clear your mind and decompress. This video is a great for keeping it simple.
Helping someone with a problem is a great way of increasing positivity. Our most memorable moments are often because we have helped someone. If you create a habit of helping people it will be repaid many times over, I promise.
You don’t have help everyone, straight away. This is a guaranteed way of taking on too much and getting stressed. This the exact opposite of what we are trying to achieve! Forming a habit starts small. I’ll give you an example. My Dentist has recommended I start flossing. The time it will take to floss all my teeth is putting me off even starting it. If I start by flossing just one tooth, I then move up to do a second tooth and a third and so on. Soon I will be flossing all teeth and the habit is formed. The same principle can be applied to meditating and most of the techniques on this list. Start small.
Writing down five things you are grateful for is a powerful way of appreciating your life. What you write is personal to you. It could be something simple such as ‘I’m grateful for knowing my family loves me.’ Doing this on a daily basis will give you perspective. This will be important when you come up against frustration or conflict in your life.
Your Thoughts and Words
Your brain is powerful but also plays tricks on you. The words you speak and your own inner dialogue will have a huge say in how you generally feel. I worked with someone and who would say ‘You see, the problem with me is..’ They are reinforcing a negative perception of themselves. It was not until I pointed this out to them that they started to explore why and what they could do about it. If you are talking about yourself in a negative way, or have a negative inner dialogue it is likely to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Focus on positive statements and words. Remember, the brain can not tell the difference between something that is real and something that is imagined with real intensity.
This may be a tricky one, as friendships are forged over many years – decades in some cases.
The old adage is true, you are the average of your five closest friends. If your friends are contributing to how you are feeling you can do something about this. You can talk to them about how their influence is affecting your mood. If this is a true friendship based on respect and trust they will do something about it. The more drastic action is dropping them altogether. Look for opportunities to associate with positive people and expand your friendship group.
Many people who lack positivity often feel their life is drifting, repetitive and has no meaning.
Setting personal goals can be a powerful way of taking ownership of your life and living the life you want to lead.
Think about the floss example – start small and then build in extra goals as you go along. What ever the goal might be, taking action is the single most important thing. One way of helping you do this is setting a date on when the goal will be achieved. Telling your friends/family about the goal is also important. They will want to support you and see you succeed. Their positivity will rub off on you and you are more likely to achieve the goal. Rinse and then repeat.
I hope the ideas on increasing positivity have struck a chord and you start using some or all of them straight away.
I would love to hear about any success you have with these techniques.
Have a positive filled weekend!